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How Vibrators Can Help Your Libido in Menopause

Dr. Emily Morse calls them "one of the single most effective inventions." But how do they help? Here's a rundown.

By Womaness Editors     6-Minute Read

Vibrators help libido in menopause

Are you experiencing a decrease in libido and vaginal discomfort during menopause? If so, you're not alone. After talking to doctors and sex experts, we learned that using a vibrator can actually help improve your sex drive and alleviate these symptoms.

In this article, we'll explore the benefits of incorporating vibrators into your intimate life, specifically focusing on the effectiveness of bullet vibrators like Gold Vibes by Womaness. We'll delve into how these innovative devices work to enhance vaginal health, boost libido, and strengthen pelvic floor muscles.  Even if you are shy about vibrators, you now have a medical reason to try them out.

Can a vibrator improve my libido and help me get my sex drive back in menopause?

Here's how Dr. Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and founder of the podcast Sex with Emily, puts it: "I would say vibrators are probably one of the single most effective inventions that have actually helped women with their sex drive...and their wellness, pleasure experience, and orgasms.

We're so sensitive; there are 8,000 nerve endings on the clitoris alone. This can feel great. It's a different sensation. And it's about what feels best on your personal nerve endings. 


Only 20% of women are going to have any pleasure from penetrative sex


Because only 20% of women are going to have any pleasure from penetrative sex. Only 20%! When we're talking about orgasm and reaching our sexual potential, it's not from this notion that it's only all about penetration.

There are stigmas out there. It's about getting over the hump; just try it. Because no one's ever said, 'Why'd you make me get this vibrator? My partner left me!' I hear from men all the time: 'What if she leaves me?' I'm like, 'The vibrator's not going to cuddle her. And it can't take her to the farmer's market, so you're good.'

I would say that vibrators are something we should use with a partner all the time, if it feels good (and for most people it does). And let me say this: vibrators are not just for vaginas. They feel great on penises. If you have a nerve ending, it'll feel great. It's just another tool to make us feel good!"

So how do vibrators actually work to help with sex drive? 

Managing Menopause Symptoms with Vibrator Use

Menopause can bring about a range of physical and emotional changes for women. One common symptom that women may experience during this transition is a decrease in libido and vaginal discomfort. However, using a vibrator can offer relief and improve sexual wellness during this time.

Vibrators Enhance Vaginal Blood Flow

Using a vibrator increases blood flow to the vaginal area, which can alleviate dryness and promote the health of your vaginal wall. The gentle vibrations can stimulate the nerves and improve lubrication, reducing discomfort and pain.

Vibrators Boost Libido

Menopause often leads to a decline in sexual desire. Incorporating a vibrator into solo or partnered intimacy can help boost libido by increasing arousal and pleasure. Vibrators can provide intense sensations and aid in achieving orgasms, which can enhance sexual satisfaction.

Vibrators Strengthen Pelvic Floor Muscles

Regular use of a vibrator can serve as a form of pelvic floor exercise. The vibrations can provide mild resistance, which helps in toning and strengthening.


How does Gold Vibes vibrator work

How Does Gold Vibes Work?: The Science Behind Bullet Vibrators

Gold Vibes by Womaness is a bullet vibrator that is discreet, but really works. Bullet vibrators have gained popularity for their ability to provide intense pleasure and satisfaction. This compact and discreet sex toy has a unique design that makes it highly effective in delivering pleasurable sensations.

Let's explore the seven reasons why bullet vibrators work so well:

1. Pinpoint Stimulation

One of the key features of a bullet vibrator is its small size and precision shape. Gold Vibes, in particular, is both small and discreet, but you will be surprised how well it works. It allows for targeted stimulation of specific erogenous zones such as the clitoris, nipples, or perineum. The concentrated vibrations produced by the bullet vibrator create intense sensations, leading to heightened pleasure and more focused orgasms.

2. Versatile & Travel-Friendly

Gold Vibes is portable and discreet, making it perfect for on-the-go pleasure. The small size and inconspicuous appearance make it easy to carry in a purse or travel bag. Whether you're at home or away, the convenience ensures that you can enjoy pleasurable moments whenever and wherever you desire.

3. Customizable Intensity

One of the reasons Gold Vibes is effective is the ability to offer customizable intensity levels. Gold Vibes comes  with varying speeds (7 speeds) and vibration patterns, allowing you to adjust the intensity according to your preferences. This versatility ensures that you can find the perfect stimulation that suits you. 

4. Easy to Use

The simplicity of the Gold Vibe bullet vibrator makes it user-friendly for all experience levels. It has a single button that controls the vibrations, making it easy to navigate and find the desired setting. This straightforward design ensures that you can fully focus on your pleasure without any complications or distractions.

5. Enhances Partnered Intimacy

Bullet vibrators can also enhance partnered intimacy. The small size and non-intimidating appearance make them an approachable option to introduce into sexual experiences with a partner. The added stimulation and increased sensation can elevate pleasure for both partners, leading to a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual connection.

6. Discreet & Non-Intimidating

Some people may feel apprehensive or inhibited about using larger or more complex sex toys. Bullet vibrators, however, have a non-intimidating and discreet design. Gold Vibes can easily blend in with everyday objects (it often looks like a lipstick!) and is less likely to cause discomfort or self-consciousness. This creates a more relaxed and comfortable experience, allowing you to fully enjoy the benefits of the vibrator without any added stress or anxiety.

7. Stimulates Nerve Endings

The powerful vibrations produced by bullet vibrators stimulate the nerve endings in the targeted areas, such as the clitoris or nipples. This stimulation triggers the release of neurotransmitters, such as dopamine and oxytocin, which are associated with pleasure and arousal. The enhanced nerve stimulation can intensify sensations and lead to more intense and satisfying orgasms.


Using a vibrator increases blood flow to the vaginal area, which can alleviate dryness and promote the health of your vaginal wall.

To Sum It Up...

Bullet vibrators, including Gold Vibes, are highly effective in providing intense pleasure and satisfaction. Their small size and precision shape allow for pinpoint stimulation, targeting specific erogenous zones. They are versatile, portable, and discreet, making them ideal for on-the-go pleasure. The customizable intensity levels cater to your preferences, and their user-friendly design ensures easy use. Bullet vibrators can enhance partnered intimacy and are non-intimidating, making them suitable for all levels of experience. Additionally, they stimulate your nerve endings, leading to heightened sensations...and more intense orgasms.

We highly recommend Gold Vibes as a good place to start to try using a vibrator to help with intimacy and sexual libido. 

How to Use Gold Vibes

1. To charge Gold Vibes, plug the USB cable into a USB charging point and attach the magnetic connector to the base of the toy.

2. Charging takes approximately 60 minutes and you’ll get up to 60 minutes of play.

3. To maximize Gold Vibes, apply a dab of a water-based lubricant or a vaginal moisturizer like Daily V Soothe to the vibrator before sliding the attachment onto it. (Note that you cannot use Coco Bliss with the silicone sleeve on Gold Vibes.) 

4. Press and hold the power button on the toy’s base to turn it on or off, and press repeatedly to explore the seven vibration patterns.

5. Clean after use and leave to air dry until next time.

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    Disclaimer: This article is intended for informational purposes and is not intended to replace a one-on-one relationship with a physician or medical advice. Womaness strives to share the knowledge and advice from our own network of experts and our own research. We encourage you to make healthcare decisions based in partnership with a qualified healthcare professional.