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Your Question:
“Give it to me straight. Can a vibrator really help me with my lower sex drive in menopause?”
The Answer:
From Dr. Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality & founder/host of the podcast Sex with Emily:
"I would say that vibrators are probably one of the single most effective inventions that have actually helped women with their sex drive...and their wellness, pleasure experience, and orgasms.
We're so sensitive; there are 8,000+ nerve endings on the clitoris alone. This can feel great. It's a different sensation. And it's about what feels best on your personal nerve endings.
Because only 20% of women are going to have any pleasure from penetrative sex. Only 20%! When we're talking about orgasm and reaching our sexual potential, it's not from this notion that it's only all about penetration.
"Vibrators are probably one of the single most effective inventions that have actually helped women with their sex drive."
There are stigmas [out there]. It's about getting over the hump; just try it. Because no one's ever said, “Why'd you make me get this vibrator? My partner left me!” I hear from men all the time: “What if she leaves me?” I'm like, "The vibrator's not going to cuddle her. And it can't take her to the farmer's market, so you're good."
I would say that vibrators are something we should use with a partner all the time, if it feels good (and for most people it does). And let me just say this: vibrators are not just for vaginas. They feel great on penises. If you have a nerve ending, it'll feel great. It's just another tool to make us feel good!"
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